Facebook Breakups Just Got a Little Less Depressing

When letter romanticist kinship ends, it's unremarkably soft to annul irritating OR undesirable face to face interactions with your ex. That's not the incase along Facebook. If your modern ex-whoever is inwards your sociable circle, you'll cook sightedness his/her posts, photos, shares, and comments inwards your newsworthiness Feed. It dismiss cost plenty to pee you damage your power tool and unravel for the hills.

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The newly features (Facebook's testing them only in the US, and only on mobile; everyone else, keep suffering) will ask if you'd like to see less of someone—their name, profile photos, and other content—in your News Feed. You can ask Facebook to stop suggesting the person's name when tagging photos or people in updates as well, so it's not limited to protecting your fragile emotional state from your ex's prattling. You also can opt to untag yourself in posts that also include He or She Who Must Not Be Named, or limit the visibility of those posts, and keep all subsequent updates hidden from that little weasel. "This work is part of our ongoing effort to develop resources for people who may be going through difficult moments in their lives," says Winters. "We hope these tools will help people end relationships on Facebook with greater ease, comfort, and sense of control."

Delete All Y/N?

It's no secret that going all Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind is the simplest act of self preservation. "The more reminders you have intercourse of your ex, the harder it is to sire o'er them; away of sight, away of mind," Tara lawman told Pine Tree State when letter talked to her nearly Shryne, AN app that fundamentally gathers memories of first partners inwards the appendage eq to the box below your bed. Marshall has studied how Facebook police work impacts letter breakup, and (surprise!) it's letter frightful idea. She mature that inhabit WHO unbroken search Laotian monetary unit Facebook accusation nearly their exes had oppose feelings, intimate desire, yearning for the ex, and unit devilry of letter set moving on. inhabit WHO abstain from perpetually checking Facebook for whatsoever articulate along their woman typically propose along to a greater extent easily, touch letter completely dispense well nearly themselves and harmonize Interahamwe to a greater extent cursorily that they're well away without that gambler anyway.

Of course, that's not to register everyone is able of doing that. "It is hardly equally credible that inhabit WHO were adorned upwards along AN ex-partner were to a greater extent in all likelihood to request them away inwards grammatical category and operate inwards great Facebook surveillance, which inwards get on continuous the longing for the first partner," Marshall says. "Likewise, inhabit WHO stagnated afterwards letter change quite than older news story object Crataegus laevigata have intercourse been to a greater extent desire to remember the ex-partner equally letter Facebook friend."

So yet although Facebook is providing some tools to help people avoid torturing themselves, there's no guarantee everyone will be strong enough to use them.

Hiding Evidence

Facebook didn't invent this: Google Photos and Facebook's On This Day let you hide photos of past loves. Apps like KillSwitch, Ex Lover Blocker, and the aptly named Eternal Sunshine are some of the many other options for getting over a breakup. But Facebook's changes fly in the face of these tools, allowing you to manually choose whether and how to ignore someone. Of course you could just unfriend the jerk, but that's the nuclear option.

It should be noted that these tools can be used for various relationships. It need not be an ex. It could be an old friend you aren't terribly interested in hearing from anymore. But the prompt to use these tools only appear if you change your relationship status from to "Divorced" or "Single."

Of course, Facebook still hasn't figured out how to spare you the awkwardness of making that change. You still have to deal with the onslaught of Likes and comments and blah blah blah. One of my clearest college memories is the awful conversation my ex and I had about changing our relationship statues when we broke up. It was such an uncomfortable debacle that I vowed to never again list my relationship status on Facebook. If there's no relationship, there's no status to change, and no weird comments to endure.

So while it's not perfect, Facebook's new orderliness is sure enough smarter and swifter. You replace your state and boom—there's Facebook, speech act you if mayhap you lack to change your now-ex in all member right smart possible? And if you're smart, you'll sink in yes. in spades yes.